So, this morning in yoga I felt an overwhelming peace. Yoga is all about mind, body, spirit connection, and today that happened in a big way for me. It’s so easy to just go through the motions, doing each pose as instructed, modifying as needed. But when you practice day after day, really focusing on the relationship between breath and posture, drowning out any and all distractions, something amazing happens. I am so embarrassed to admit this, but it actually brought me to tears. I was so closely reminded of my relationship with God, and to the way I practice life in general. It’s so easy to go through the motions of being a Christian; of being a friend; of being a sister; of being an employee; of being a girlfriend or wife; but when you actually focus of the purpose of the actions, and practice with good intention, everything works out. It is HARD to do, but after experiencing the connectedness of my mind, spirit, and body this morning, how could I not want more of that? more of God; more out of my relationships; more out of my job?
Anyway, after I left yoga I started getting deep into thought on some things, and I came to a few conclusions of when you should stop going through the motions; when you should focus of the purity of intention and self acceptance.
If you’re anything like me, you feel lame to turn plans down, whether it be with friends, your job, your family, your significant other, or your church. You feel like it would be another missed opportunity to make memories with people you love or care about. You feel like you might be judged for not going out again, or not going on a spur of the moment road trip again, or just not participating again. You feel like you’re the only one that has obligations, responsibilities, and your health to take care of. I hate turning things down, because i feel like I might lose friends and acquaintances because of it.
I hate having to use the excuse of not having any money when turning down fun activities or dates. I hate trying to be someone I’m not so that I feel accepted. I hate that I feel the way I do, but I’m sure I’m not the only one.
As I’ve established my professional career, along with professional life, I’ve had to come to a very real truth that I can’t always participate. It may be that financially I can’t, or emotionally I can’t, or even physically I can’t. It doesn’t make me a bad person to reject an offer, it makes me responsible (at least that’s my opinion on the matter).
So, here are a few things I’ve concluded thus far.
Sometimes, “just don’t”…
–don’t spend money you don’t have. credit cards can be your best and worst friend. make sure you know your boundaries.
–don’t fall in love with someone who doesn’t love you. yes, it’s okay to love someone, but don’t fall head over heels for someone who clearly wants to keep you in the friend zone. and don’t sweat it if that’s where they want to keep you. there are plenty of fish in the sea, and there is someone out there for you that knows you are worth it, because guess what? YOU ARE WORTH IT!
–don’t go out on a friday night if you don’t want to. just because you are twenty something, and make money, and have a job, doesn’t mean you have to go out. if you want to sit at home and binge watch Netflix and eat ice cream every once in while on a friday (and possibly saturday) night, it is okay. i do think you should try to make an effort to socialize, but it doesn’t have to be every weekend!
–don’t treat your body like it’s a garbage can. yes, eating cheeseburgers and french fries is definitely an important part of your sanity, but give your body the things it needs to survive, like water! Drink lots of water, eat vegetables and fruit, and eat in moderation. there are vitamins minerals, and electrolytes in food that your body needs to regulate to function properly, so do yourself a favor and treat your body right!
–don’t be afraid to be yourself. this is especially hard when you feel inadequate or inferior. it’s easy to change the way you act to fit in with the surroundings, but don’t do it. be who God created you to be!
My thoughts are irrelevant to YOUR situation, but just remember: DON’T live for the acceptance of others and DON’T just go through the motions! Life is never going to be everything you want it to be, but it can be full of JOY if you trust God and “just don’t” sometimes!
stay beautiful! xoxo